People Who Are Both Deep & Silly Usually Have 8 Rare Traits That Make Them A Joy To Be Around

Deep and silly sounds like a strange emotional combination, but it probably describes more people than we realize. Just like happiness and sadness, one can’t really exist without the other.

People who have cultivated this unique personality profile are different from those who haven’t in the best way. They have certain rare traits that make them seem absolutely magnetic.

Rare personality traits of people who are both deep and silly at the same time:

1. They move between a serious conversation and a joke with ease

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It’s possible for people to switch from one emotion to another through a process psychologists call reappraisal, but it’s not easy. Or, it might be more accurate to say that it’s not easy for people who aren’t deep and silly at the same time.

For this special group of people, shifting between a deep conversation and laughing hysterically feels totally natural. Their deep and silly sides exist simultaneously, so it’s not like they’re in some kind of competition to see which one will be dominant. It just all comes out at once.

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2. They say something thought-provoking before making people laugh

Deep people tend to search for meaning in everything, so it’s not out of the ordinary for them to casually drop some knowledge that’s so profound it makes everyone stop and think. But their versatility means they’re just as likely to share a funny joke that makes people laugh.

The average person is used to experiencing seriousness and silliness at different times. For people who feel both, it doesn’t feel odd to move between such different topics. That’s just the way that their mind works.

3. They connect with people through their sense of humor

Some people use humor to mask their discomfort, but those who are deep and silly have the rare ability to grow closer to others through humor. They’re able to understand that strong relationships and laughter are both essential to their well-being, so they try to combine them.

Laughter decreases the stress hormones in people’s bodies so they feel more at ease, and this might have an even more powerful effect when it’s done with a friend. The people in their life will probably benefit from their mix of depth and levity in more ways than they realize.

4. They make people feel comfortable being themselves

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If you’ve ever thought that you feel more comfortable around certain people, it’s not in your head. Researchers call the way someone makes other people feel their affective presence. Some people just have a more positive affective presence than others.

This is definitely true for anyone who manages to be deep and silly. They’re not so serious that they make others feel like they have to pretend to be someone they’re not, but they’re also not so silly that they come across as annoying. It’s the perfect way to put people at ease.

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5. They know how to respond to different situations

It’s really hard to seek support from someone who’s constantly joking around, just like it’s hard to have a good laugh with someone who’s so serious they don’t seem to know what a joke is. 

People react to things based on the emotions they feel. If someone is just deep or just silly, they won’t really know how to react to a situation that calls for the opposite emotion. That makes people who can feel both special. They know how to respond appropriately to pretty much anything.

6. They understand what should and shouldn’t be taken seriously

Seriousness is some people’s default attitude. This can become a bad thing when they take everything in life so seriously that they feel constantly overwhelmed.

That’s not a problem for people who are both deep and silly. They can be serious when the time is right, but they also don’t sweat the small stuff that they know doesn’t really matter. They have a much more balanced perspective that makes them easy to get along with.

7. They feel equally interested in serious and humorous subjects

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Someone who’s deep and silly is the kind of person who will want to do a deep dive when researching the Dust Bowl while being equally fascinated by a reality show. They give new meaning to having diverse interests.

The cool thing about having a lot of interests is that it actually makes a person more interesting themselves. It’s understandable that people would want to be around them.

8. They can smooth over any awkward moment

Awkward moments are unavoidable, so what really matters is how people respond to them. When someone focuses on their embarrassments, it makes it harder for them to think on their feet so they can bounce back.

Someone who’s both deep and silly doesn’t struggle with this because they’re able to find the humor in everything. They don’t get hung up on bad moments because that’s just not how they operate. And when someone else feels awkward, they’re always ready to diffuse the tension.

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Mary-Faith Martinez is a writer with a bachelor’s degree in English and Journalism who covers news, psychology, lifestyle, and human interest topics.