No One Should Ever Have To Beg For 8 Perfectly Reasonable Things In A Relationship
Drazen Zigic | ShutterstockWhen someone finds their better half, their entire world changes. Not only have they found someone who is fully committed and makes them a better person, but they can grow together as well. Unfortunately, over time, that promise to each other may feel like it's fading.
There are just certain things in a relationship that nobody should have to beg for. Trust and respect are the basic foundations of any healthy partnership, but it's often the little things that matter most, like spending quality time together or just replying to a text message.
Nobody should have to beg for these very reasonable things in their relationship
1. The courtesy to reply to a message
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When you have a partner who is poor at communication and can't even give you the courtesy of a text back, it can feel like a slap in the face. Even if people say that their lives are busy, no one is ever too busy to text or call the person they care for.
It's important to stop accepting the excuses and have an open, honest conversation about the lack of responses. There might be something deeper going on, and a real conversation may uncover it.
2. A concrete 'yes'
If a partner won't give you a simple "yes" and only leads with a "maybe," it's time to realize that you deserve to be a priority. Nobody should have to put up with nonsense excuses and half-baked efforts. Everyone deserves a partner who will say "of course" to spending time with you and is committed to being in your life in a real way.
As relationship coach Bryan Reeves warned, "Sure, every relationship has ups and downs... But if your partner isn't willing to grow and expand their capacity to love, why keep them around? You're just sentencing your relationship to stagnation, if not death."
3. To feel excited about someone
Do you want to wake up and be genuinely excited about the special person in your life, or are you okay with waking up to another no reply and another day of wondering where exactly you stand? The answer should be obvious.
Being in a relationship should feel easy, and like you can't wait to be around that person. Nobody needs to beg to have a partner who actually wants to be around them, because that should be a given.
4. To feel secure and safe
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The very foundation of a relationship should be based around safety and security, so if you have a partner who isn't giving that, it can create feelings of anxiety. You shouldn't have to beg for reassurance from your partner that your feelings matter.
When people feel secure in a relationship, it means there's honest communication and a feeling of being comfortable with yourself. There's no need to walk on eggshells or second-guess, because that consistency makes a difference.
5. To spend quality time together
There are plenty of things you're focused on, whether it's your career or general responsibilities. But when your partner just can't seem to find a moment to spend quality time with you, it can make you question why you're together in the first place.
A person shouldn't have to constantly ask or convince their partner to prioritize meaningful time spent together. When someone truly values their relationship, they make the effort to be emotionally and physically present. Without that, the relationship is just lonely.
6. To be a priority, not an option
Being in a relationship means feeling like an equal, and putting each other first. No one deserves have to beg to be a priority, to be consistently valued and considered. No one deserves to chase their partner's attention or wonder if they even care about them.
In fact, couples who spend a majority of their time together report having greater satisfaction and closeness in their relationship. So, when a partner makes room for you in their life, it shows that not only are they committed, but that they show up when it really counts.
7. Not to be just a convenience
People should never be in a relationship just because it's convenient or they want companionship. But for the other half of a couple, it can come as a shock when they realize that their partner sees them as a filler of some kind.
A relationship should never feel like you're only wanted when it's easy for the other person or when they need something. True, real love means showing up during both the fun moments and the difficult ones, not just when it's convenient.
8. To avoid blurred lines
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You always want to be on the same page as the person you're with, and while no relationship is perfect, in order to keep it healthy both people must share the same level of interest. Nobody should be with someone who only wants something casual, when they only want something serious.
To avoid blurred lines, it's important for couples to have clear expectations and open communication. It helps both of them feel confident about where they stand with each other, rather than having to beg for clarity. Relationships evolve over time, so it's essential to speak openly and frequently about boundaries and intentions.
Andrea Wesley is a freelance writer and poet living in Vancouver, Canada, and a contributor to The Bolde and Elite Daily.
