Men Who Are Mentally & Emotionally Clueless Usually Say 9 Dumb Phrases In Casual Conversation
simona pilolla 2 | ShutterstockSome men say something they think is fine, only to notice they've enraged their girlfriends. Mentally & emotionally clueless men might think they're being helpful, but the opposite's actually true, and they don't realize the dumb phrases they casually say without even thinking — that's the problem — don't come across the right way.
Mentally and emotionally clueless men usually say these things casually:
1. 'She’s just a friend'
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If she’s attractive and single, we see her as a threat. If she is just a friend, make sure that's clear. Is it because she’s not their type, she has a boyfriend, or you've known her forever?
We like to be reassured that he's not secretly into his “friend.” Obviously, it's not uncommon to have friends of the opposite gender, with one survey finding that 54% of married men and 43% of women have a close friend of a different gender, but if your girlfriend feels insecure about it, make sure it's clear where this 'friend' stands and what the true nature of your relationship really is.
2. 'I’ll call you tonight at [insert time]'
A guy should not give a specific time/date of when he will be calling unless he intends to keep his word. If he says he will call tonight, we expect a call. Not calling when he agreed to — or at least give or take half an hour — will set off all sorts of alarms and distrust.
3. 'She’s hot'
We like to think that, at least in our man's eyes, we are the hottest woman on the planet. Pointing out that someone else is attractive will not earn a guy any brownie points. We don’t want to know if he thinks anyone else is hot — only mentally & emotionally clueless men would dare utter this dumb phrase.
4. 'I love you' (way too early)
He'll be opening Pandora’s Box if he doesn't mean it. Women do not take this statement lightly. A woman waits for her man to say it; when he does, she assumes the relationship is moving to the next level.
If he's not ready for that kind of commitment, he shouldn't utter these three little words until he is. One study found that it takes an average of 107 days for men to say, "I love you," so if he's saying it after your second date, just assume he's emotionally clueless and probably only wants one thing.
5. 'My ex always/never/used to...'
If his ex is still on his mind so much that he must constantly bring her up, why is he dating someone else? Relationships are complex enough without the ghost of a guy's ex floating around. He needs to get back with her or let that relationship go completely.
6. 'You remind me of my mother'
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Men should not compare their mothers to their girlfriends unless they're either a) mentally and emotionally clueless or b) they’ve made it clear that they adore their mothers and think the world of them.
7. 'Did we have plans?'
Oh no, you didn’t! If we’ve made plans to get together, we’ve been looking forward to it all day. We’ve been thinking about what to wear and how to do our hair. An emotionally clueless man shouldn't rain on our parade by forgetting our plans, or there will be a steep price to pay.
8. 'Keep in touch/call me'
What the heck is that supposed to mean? Does he plan on never calling us again? Does he want us to call him next time? There’s too much room for misinterpretation here with a casually vague phrase like this one. Instead, let's stick to clear communication.
Lucia is a dating and relationship expert and the author of Lucia's Lessons of Love. She has been featured on radio and TV Shows as an expert, including Dr. Phil, The CBS Early Show, and Good Day LA.
